One of the fundamental rules in how we relate to each other is quite simple: always aim to make the other person happy about doing what you suggest. This means that when you assign a task to someone, express to them that it holds significant importance to you and that their successful completion of the task is crucial. By doing this, you convey a sense of responsibility and importance, making the person happy to take on the task. For instance, with your kids, you can promise to play a game with them once they finish their homework. Knowing they want to play with you, they’ll happily tackle their homework first. If you wish someone to do something, find a way to provide them with an incentive that makes them happy to undertake the task.

Consider this: if you want your daughter to tidy her room, create a scenario where she’ll find joy in doing it. Explain that a clean room means more space to play, easy access to all her toys, and an overall better mood. Applying various principles we’ve discussed earlier, you can be creative in finding ways to ensure the other person is happy about doing what you suggest. When encouraging someone to take action, strive to make it an enjoyable experience for them.