Avoiding arguments is crucial, as winning or losing both lead to negative outcomes. If you triumph, you may feel good, but you make the other person feel inferior, damaging their pride and fostering resentment. Arguments, as Carnegie emphasizes, offer nothing to gain and everything to lose. They can break friendships, end marriages, and even escalate to wars, causing grief and sadness. Winning an argument might seem satisfying, but the defeated person, feeling embarrassed and hurt, often harbors resentment. Carnegie questions the value of proving someone wrong, especially if it damages the relationship. Even if you’re right, the aftermath may include anger and a desire for revenge. The loser may think, “So what if you were right? Did you have to embarrass me? Just wait for payback!” Thus, Carnegie advocates avoiding arguments, preserving others’ dignity, and recognizing the potential consequences of pushing one’s point. Ultimately, fostering understanding and maintaining relationships outweigh the short-lived satisfaction of winning an argument.