The Leaders’ only task is not to get things done; but it is to get things done, with enhanced mutual respect, love and empathy between the leader and the led; and amongst the group itself. Instead of barking orders like a drill sergeant, Carnegie suggests a more effective approach—asking questions. People despise being bossed around, and constantly hearing commands is no way to foster cooperation. Carnegie’s strategy is to involve others in the decision-making process by posing questions that lead them to the desired conclusion. By doing so, individuals feel they have a say in the matter, making them more motivated to comply. Instead of a blunt “Do this or do that,” consider using phrases like “You might consider,” “Do you think that would work?” or “Maybe we could add.” This way, whether you’re dealing with family, kids, employees, or co-workers, you’re encouraging collaboration through thoughtful inquiry.