Book: How to Win Friends ; Step-30

Published: 1937 & Pages: 320

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PART-4 of 4
How to Change People

Principle - 7 (Total: 9)
Assist Others Reputation Building

If you wish to help someone improve in a certain aspect, behave as if that particular trait were already one of their outstanding characteristics. Provide them with a fine reputation to live up to, and they will exert tremendous efforts rather than witness your disappointment. Remember the principle: Appeal to the nobler motives? Recall this example: ‘You strike me as someone who’s a great listener…’

It applies similarly here: If you attribute a lofty reputation to a person, it incites in them a desire to meet those expectations. In essence, act as if that specific trait is already one of their outstanding characteristics, and the person will strive to live up to it. In the previous example, the trait would be a ‘good listener.’ The friend will now endeavor to live up to that reputation and actively listen to you. Carnegie illustrates this with the story of Bill, a mechanic whose work had become unsatisfactory. His boss addressed the situation by saying:

‘You are a fine mechanic, you have been in the business for many years, and we’ve had a number of compliments on the good work you have done. But lately, your work has not been up to your own old standards, and I thought you’d want to know since you’ve been such an outstanding mechanic in the past.’ The outcome? Bill, the mechanic, rediscovered his old work ethic and excelled in his job as before. It’s no surprise when considering the reputation his manager gave him to live up to. This approach isn’t confined to situations where someone isn’t performing at their best; it works in nearly every scenario. If you aim to modify someone’s behavior, act as though that person already exhibits that behavior. You can use phrases like‘I really love __ about you.’ ‘You’re so good at __. I think that’s just great!’ ‘You know what I appreciate about you? You always __.’ ‘Why are you acting this way? Usually, you’re totally __.’ Is this manipulative? Yes, it might be. But aren’t we always trying to manipulate each other? Consider when you’re persuading someone to go to the doctor for their health’s sake or convincing a friend to join you for a jog. We constantly manipulate each other, so why not learn some effective tricks, using them for positive purposes?

بسم اللہ الرحمان الرحیم،
اردو ترجمہ جلد اپ لوڈ کیا جاےَ گا، انشاء اللہ

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1. What principle does the paragraph suggest for helping someone improve in a certain aspect?

Act as if that trait were already one of their outstanding characteristics.

2. How does providing someone with a fine reputation to live up to affect their efforts?

It motivates them to make prodigious efforts rather than face disappointment.

3. Give an example of attributing a lofty reputation to someone and its impact.

The example is Bill, a mechanic, who improved his work ethic when praised for past outstanding performance.

4. According to the paragraph, what is the key to changing someone’s behavior?

Act as if the person already exhibits the desired behavior.

5. How does the paragraph suggest using phrases like "I really love __ about you"?

As a way to attribute positive traits and encourage desired behavior.

6. What example does the paragraph provide to illustrate the principle of giving someone a reputation to live up to?

The boss praising Bill, the mechanic, for past outstanding work.

7. In what situations does the paragraph state that this approach works?

It works in almost every situation where you want to modify someone’s behavior.

8. How does the paragraph relate this approach to everyday situations?

It likens persuasion in everyday situations to a form of manipulation used for positive purposes.

9. What does the paragraph say about sincerity when attributing positive traits to someone?

Praise should be sincere and as specific as possible.

10. Why does the paragraph mention the principle "Appeal to the nobler motives"?

It highlights the concept of encouraging positive behavior by appealing to higher ideals in people.

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Book Summary How to Win Friends & Influence People Test-30 (QM)

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2. How does giving someone a fine reputation to live up to impact their efforts?

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3. Why does the paragraph mention the principle "Appeal to the nobler motives"?

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4. According to the paragraph, what is the key to changing someone’s behavio

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5. How does the paragraph relate this approach to everyday situations?

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6. What example does the paragraph provide to illustrate the principle of giving someone a reputation to live up to?

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7. How does the paragraph suggest using phrases like "I really love __ about you"?

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8. In what situations does the paragraph state that this approach works ?

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9. What does the paragraph say about sincerity when attributing positive traits to someone?

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10. In the example of Bill the mechanic, what did his boss praise him for?

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